Why 'Finding the One' Is Terrible Advice (And What to Do Instead)

Grab my Sunday Times Best Selling Book: Healthy Shouldn't Be This Hard 👇😆✌🏼https://linktr.ee/HealthySBTHThis week I'm joined by Cindy Gallop, advertising icon and entrepreneur, and one of the most fearless voices in business today.We delve into confidence, self worth, relationships and why so many of us settle for less than we deserve.What we explore together:-Why true confidence comes from knowing your own values-Why women are taught to undersell themselves, and how to stop-Why we don't need to find "the one" to be fulfilled-The dating filter most people overlook completely-How Cindy built Make Love Not Porn and changed the conversation around sex-Why role models for living differently matter more than ever-What it actually means to trust yourselfMy book 'Healthy Shouldn't Be This Hard': https://www.amazon.co.uk/Healthy-Shouldnt-Be-This-Hard-ebook/dp/B0G1DHNRV5This episode is sponsored by:NOWATCH: The compassionate health tracker Connecting body and mind with unique stress recovery insights so you can live fully today. 👉 15% off with code LWBW15 at https://nowatch.com/More from me: The Great British Veg Out How to support your gut by eating more, not less https://sarahmacklin.substack.com/p/t…Reset Your Health If your body feels off after stress, travel, or burnout, this is where to start! https://sarahmacklin.substack.com/s/r...Free 5-recipe PDF for busy weeks https://open.substack.com/pub/sarahma...Join thousands reading The Compassionate Cure → https://sarahmacklin.substack.com/Let's be friends! 📷 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sarahannmacklin 📹 Subscribe https://youtube.com/@livewellbewellsarah?si=UbuuWvMjAcTkELPN 📱 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@livewellbewellpodcast?_r=1&_t=ZN-96iOW29jTRmTimestamps00:00 — Introduction02:51 — The secret of confidence05:58 — Why we struggle to promote ourselves, especially in Britain09:08 — The challenges Cindy has faced in her career11:50 — Why the conversation around sex is so negative14:55 — A different perspective on relationships18:05 — Dating as a single woman in business21:02 — Can men handle a confident woman?24:10 — Using humour to disarm difficult moments27:10 — Why Cindy stopped looking for "the one"29:58 — Friendships, family and external validation32:57 — The dating filter most people overlook36:02 — How to drown out everyone else's expectations and trust yourself39:00 — Confidence, dyslexia and self acceptance41:50 — How Cindy started dating younger men45:01 — Meeting people you'd never otherwise cross paths with47:55 — What needs to be role modelled in the real world51:01 — How Make Love Not Porn began54:08 — A story about marriage, sex and reconnecting56:50 — The noise of advice on Instagram and TikTok59:53 — An interesting topic in modern relationships63:08 — Cindy's honest take66:08 — The pressure to keep creating content69:08 — Where women are in this cultural moment